Monday, June 27, 2011

Week 10 Status

This week I'm helping teach a class for work and won't be in the office during my lunch (I typically update during my lunch break).  So, I'm doing the 10 week status update a couple of days early. 

Total Weight Gain: I haven't weight lately, so I'm saying 1.5 lbs... may be closer to 2, but who knows.
(Update!!! 6/28/11: I weighed this morning and the 1.5 lbs I thought I had gained was pretty much gone... someone call Scooby Doo to solve the mystery of the vanishing baby weight.)

Maternity Clothes: not yet... the longer I can stay in my regular clothes the better.

Stretch Marks: not yet

Sleep: Yay for our new mattress! We bought a TempurPedic and it was delivered this weekend.  I may be in love.

Best Moment this Week: Got a call from Aunt Glenda who was super excited to have heard our news.
Worst Moment this Week: not really baby related, but the morning after they delivered our new mattress, our bed broke because the new mattress is just a little too big... cost us a whole day of running around trying to set up a temporary bed and fix the real one.

Food Cravings: Hmmmm... I think this week I had a craving for bran muffins.  Made those one night while I was cooking supper... now I'm thinking hot dogs!

Gender: ???? Guesses are welcome!

Labor Signs: too soon for those.

Belly Button: it's there!

What I miss: I have a bad feeling that by the end of 9 months I'm going to need a nice bottle of white zinfindel. 

What I'm looking forward to: Friday... we have another prenatal checkup, the long weekend starts, and we're having a 4th of July BBQ / Slip-n-slide party with the nieces and nephews.

Weekly Wisdom: Courtesy of the nieces and nephews... each baby and child will be completely different from every other baby and/or child.  They will grow and do and be their own little people.  The best we can do as adults is help to shape those little people into adults of whom we can be proud.

Milestones: Double digit weeks and 25% of the way through pregnancy!

Baby's now the size of a prune!

With bones and cartilage starting to form and vital organs beginning to function, baby is making major progress. Body length will almost double in the next three weeks, and arm joints are now working. (Soon, legs will start working too.)

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Week 9 Status Update - Martinis Anyone?

Here we are at week 9 and plugging right along.

How Big is Baby: the size of a green olive.  (now all I need is Gin and Vermouth)

Total Weight Gain: 1 lb has definately arrive and we're likely working on 2.

Maternity Clothes: not yet, though I did have a conversation with my sister (who's also pregnant) about doing some serious closet sharing over the next few months.

Stretch Marks: still a no (knock on wood)

Sleep:  I think we need a new mattress.  I can actually sleep pretty well but I wake up with a stiff everything.

Best Moment this Week: Shared the news with the family! Everyone is excited and on board. 

Worst Moment this Week: nearly falling asleep at my desk at work... hello fatigue.

Food Cravings: Not so severe this week... but you never know when something is going to strike.

Gender: ????

Labor Signs: too soon for those.

Belly Button: it's there!

What I miss: Having the energy to do anything but crash on the couch after work.

What I'm looking forward to:  July 4th and the 3 day weekend.... seriously in need of some down time right now.

Weekly Wisdom:  No real wisdom here... perhaps I need to start meditating so that I can create some profound thoughts.

Milestones: One week away from double digits and being 25% done.

Baby's now the size of a green olive!

Your little embryo has now officially graduated to fetus-hood. Adding to the excitement, a Doppler ultrasound device might be able to pick up the beating heart. With basic physical structures in place and increasingly distinct facial features, baby is kind of starting to look like...well...a baby!

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Pregnancy Book Reviews

The minute I found out we were expecting, I ran out and bought a baby book for me and one for Brian.  I really just went to get one for me because I was freaking out wanting to know exactly what was going to happen and when and what I needed to be doing to prepare myself in the meantime.  (Type A personality anyone?) 

I began with the old standard "What to Expect When You're Expecting". 

From Google Books:  Murkoff is back with yet another edition of the indispensable What to Expect When You’re Expecting —this time with a largely rewritten and revised edition of the comprehensive guide she introduced 24 years ago. The book has undergone an extensive overhaul, beginning with the cover, which depicts a stylish expectant mom dressed in jeans and a form-fitting shirt—a far cry from the original text’s comfy, frumpy mom seated in a rocking chair. Inside, the author has added a number of new features, including a chapter that draws upon current research to steer parents-to-be to a healthier lifestyle even before conception begins, chapters on healthy eating and giving birth to multiples (a growing trend) and expanded sections on working during pregnancy. While the general layout and appearance of the book will be familiar to readers, Murkoff has successfully broadened and sharpened the material while keeping the overall style and presentation intact. (Apr.)

My Review:  Though this book is a good reference guide for terminology (like when you need to know what an episiotomy is - yuck!).  Overall though, this book is completely terrifying and strives to create a guilt trip at every chance possible.  I hated the fact that the book felt the need to constantly tell me that this way or that way was best and completely failed to examine any but the negative side of things such as bottle feeding over breast feeding.  Then there was the whole feminist liberal man-hating slant.  I know nothing about Heidi Murkoff's personal life, but I suspect she divorced her husband the minute she found out she was carrying his child.  That is how much she seemed to hate men.  Her opinion is that the man should begin doing absolutely everything around the house and should not only tolerate those massive mood swings, but be thankful that the mother of his future child even spoke to him (even if it was just to be hateful).  Overall, it's been useful for covering some of the technical topics, but worthless as far as helping to prepare a birth plan (apparently a necessity?) or make any real informed decisions (unless you want to tow the liberal line - not for me).

The second book I recieved was a freebie from the Doctor's office (yay for freebies!), "Pregnancy, Childbirth, and the Newborn: The Complete Guide".

From Google Books:  Pregnancy, Childbirth, and the Newborn: The Complete Guide is already one of the bestselling pregnancy books on the market, with more than one million copies in print! Now newly revised and redesigned, this comprehensive, authoritative bible provides expectant couples with abundant, valuable information about pregnancy, labor, birth, the postpartum period, and newborn care. This award-winning book presents the latest research-based information on pregnancy, birth, and early parenthood, including: " New information on complementary-medicine approaches such as acupuncture " Updated information on interventions during childbirth " Revised statistics and discussions on cesarean birth and vaginal birth after cesarean (VBAC) " New advice on informed decision-making, one of the hottest topics in maternity care today " Plus much, much more! The book has been redesigned so it's more accessible and reader-friendly, with more photos, illustrations, and boxed features that allow for important information to be highlighted. Also included in the new design are fun and informative sidebars, such as Common Q&As about pregnancy, childbirth, and newborn care; In Their Own Words, in which parents describe their pregnancy, childbirth, and early parenting experiences from their point of view; and Fact or Fiction? in which the authors present common misinformation and the facts.

My Review:  This certainly was more useful than the "What to Expect" book and has pretty much no political leanings as far as I can tell.  One online review even called it "the Switzerland" of pregancy books.  I'm using it as my primary reference and only using the "What to Expect" book as a secondary point of information.  I love the fact that this book lists the positive and negatives of all those wonderful pregancy and newborn issues.  This book even lists some up sides of bottle feeding like the fact that daddy can have some bonding time while feeding too! Now what's the harm in saying that? This book is not nearly as terrifying and provides a wonderful list of alternatives for ways to manage pain during labor besides saying that drugs are bad for baby and you should just deal with the pain.  Though this is also not a book I would sit down and read cover to cover, I certainly read more of it than the other book.  I especially enjoyed the excepts they had from "real moms" giving their points of view.  Plus, this book has multiple chapters on caring for newborns.  Like how to care for the umbilical cord, giving baby his first bath, swaddling, etc.  I've been around lots of newborns, but I don't know any of that detailed stuff.  This is definately helping me prepare myself for that. 

The last book was the one I bought for Brian because I thought it looked funny... "Dude, You're Gonna Be a Dad!". 

From Google Books:  There are approximately 3,712 ways for a guy to look stupid during pregnancy--this book's here to help you avoid all (most) of them. And here's your first hint: Focus on what you can be doing for her rather than what's happening to her. She's pregnant. She knows that. You know that. And her 152 baby books tell her exactly what she can expect. Your job is to learn what you can do between the stick turning blue and the drive to the delivery room to make the next nine months go as smoothly as possible. That's where John Pfeiffer steps in. Like any good coach, he's been through it. He's dealt with the morning sickness and doctor visits, painting the baby's nursery and packing the overnight bag, choosing a name, hospital, and the color of the car-seat cover. All the while he remained positive and responsive--there with a "You're beautiful" when necessary--but assertive during the decision-making process. (He didn't want to wind up with a kid named Percy.) And now it's your turn. She might be having the baby, but you have plenty of responsibilities.

My Review: Thank God for this book! It was funny and smart and briefly covered everything to expect from a guy's perspective.  I couldn't have gotten Brian to read a 300 page book on every little detail, but he read this one cover to cover in about 3 nights.  I periodically picked it up and read sections and found it every bit as funny as Brian did.  It looks at the whole pregancy thing in a "there's an alien in her belly" kind of way.  He acknowledges that there are going to be mood swings, disgusting bodily functions, bouts of anxiety and depression, and helps to explain to dad that what's going on is completly normal and that things will eventually calm down.  He also provided very helpful advice for helping dad to deal with family, post-baby visitors, even those breast-feeding nazis who lurk in the maternity wards of hospitals.  Personally, I'm not sure that I will have the strength or sanity after childbirth to tell people to go away and leave me alone, but Brian will -- and, thanks to this book, he knows that he may have to.

Monday, June 20, 2011

Lots of "New" Posts

Since we have no "Followers".  I assume that means that my secret is still reasonably safe for now (at work at least).  I've removed the automatic syndication from Facebook, so that this won't hit and cause me problems until after I've spill the beans at work too.  Regardless, for those family and friends who do sometimes check the site but don't officially "follow", I wanted to let you know that over the past month I've been secretly blogging all about our Bean and what's been going on but I didn't "publish" those posts so that I could keep my secret.  Those posts have now been put out there, so if you want to go back and see what's been going on, take a look back to May 18, 2011.  That was the first "Bean" post and there were multiple posts after that.  I guess now that most everyone knows, I'll go ahead and share those posts too.

Spilling the Beans

This weekend we finally gave up our secret and shared our news with the family.  Brian was in Birmingham finishing up his summer camp for the national guard and I went down to a shower for our beautiful future sister-in-law, Melissa.  We decided that we probably couldn't wait until after Wes and Melissa's wedding on August 5th to share the news (things have been hard to keep secret this long) and we didn't want to bust up the newlyweds' pre-wedding party with our big announcement when we would have preferred (the 3 month mark about mid July) because it was just too close to the wedding festivities.  So we made the rounds this weekend and shared the good news.  Here's how it went down.

Friday afternoon - Brian's Dad's - We gave him his Father's Day gift a couple of days early complete with a "Grandpa" Father's Day card.  Of course, he didn't notice it when he read it so we had to pass if off to Debbie, Brian's stepmother, and she finally noticed.  The we pulled out the sonogram/ultrasound picture (I have no idea which it really is... does that make me bad at this baby stuff already?). 

Friday evening - Brian's Mom - We went over to the church where the shower was going to be the next day to help get things ready.  While we were unloading the car, Brian told his mom that we would probably need her to take a couple of days off in January and come stay with us.  Given everything that's happened over the last year I can't imagine what she was thinking until he handed her a folded up copy of the sonogram/ultrasound.  Anyway, she was super excited after that and we decided to keep it quiet until after the shower the next day.

Saturday afternoon - Brian's Granny and some more of the family - If you've ever heard us talk about the family, you know that Granny makes the rules and runs the joint.  We couldn't possilby leave Birmingham without telling her face-to-face. There were a slew of other people standing around and I think Wes and Melissa walked up while we talking too, but I'm not really sure about exactly who was and wasn't around.  Anyway, after the shower we were cleaning up and loading the cars and Brian stopped by to see Granny and help me load my car.  As Granny was getting ready to leave, Brian slipped the ultrasound/sonogram picture to Mom so that she could hand it to Granny and tell her that she wanted to show off a picture of her (Mom's) grandchild.  I think it took Granny a second to figure out what we were trying to say, but the she looked at me and said, "You?".  I nodded and after asking about twice more and saying she just didn't believe it, she gave us big hugs and headed home very happy. 

Sunday afternoon - My folks - My folks had called earlier in the weekend to see if we wanted to come over for supper Sunday night.  We agreed and then learned later that it was going to be a big family supper.  We really didn't want to make a huge deal of the whole thing, so we stopped on by the house Sunday afternoon after we went to the farm to put some stuff in our scrap metal pile.  We were sitting around the table while Joey was cooking and Brian said that he thought I had a parasite.  He then claimed that I was eating everything and still hungry all the time.  Joey, my mom, asked "It's not one of those 9 month parasites is it?".  To which he replied, "That's when it's supposed to reach maturity."

So between that and supper conversation Sunday night, the family officially knows.  Our goal is not to make a huge deal of the whole thing and I really don't have any intention of posting things on facebook myself.  But I also have no doubt that word will spread like wildfire.  Two very big families all chatting and talking and excited, I figure it won't be long before things are completely out.  We still have to let the folks at work know, but I'm probably going to wait a couple of weeks before I do that (unless facebook explodes in the meantime). 

So that looks like it for now.  I'll post the 9 week Bean update later in the week.

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

8 week Status Update

It feels like it's been an eternity since I posted last week's status update.  For some reason last week just wouldn't go away.  So far this week has moved along pretty well dispite the fact that I'm exhausted. Doing great overall still.  No morning sickness, just tired and a little moody (could be from the tired or from the hormones). 

How Big is Baby: the size of a raspberry.

Total Weight Gain: still trying to tell if that 1 lb is really there or not... fluctuations ya know.

Maternity Clothes: not yet.
Stretch Marks: still a no

Sleep: still tough.  I'm not making as many trips to the potty this week, but I can't seem to get comfortable.

Best Moment this Week: I think we're planning on telling the family this weekend... we'll see.
Worst Moment this Week: perhaps last night... between the dogs and my bathroom trips I don't think I slept
at all

Food Cravings: Everything! if I see someone on TV eating a something, I want what they have. 

Gender: ????

Labor Signs: too soon for those.

Belly Button: it's there!

What I miss: Brian at the moment.  He's been away doing his National Guard camp for almost 2 weeks.  I think I sleep better when he's home.
What I'm looking forward to: hmmmm... don't really know at the moment
Weekly Wisdom: Nothing for this week, I guess. I've been busy and tired so I've really not done much thinking.
Milestones: We made it to the 2 month mark! 7 more to go.

Baby's now the size of a raspberry!

Baby is growing like mad, putting on about a millimeter every day and continuing to straighten out in the trunk. Though you can't feel it yet, baby is moving those little arms, legs, and (now only slightly) webbed fingers and toes like crazy.

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

First Status Check - 7 weeks

When a colleague of mine recently had a baby, she routinely updated her blog with a series of baby staus updates.  They follow this simple little form that covers most of the basics of pregnancy.  I thought it would be fun to start these updates so that we could keep track of just how things are progressing. 

How Big is Baby: the size of a blueberry. 

Total Weight Gain: maybe 1 lb, but it's kinda hard to tell my weight fluctuates some anyway.
Maternity Clothes: not yet, but I've been doing some online browsing to prepare myself for when that time comes
Stretch Marks: not yet and I hope never
Sleep: challenging. I'm already up 3-4 times every night to go to the potty
Best Moment this Week: our first doctor's appointment... we saw a regular heartbeat on the ultrasound
Worst Moment this Week: finding out I had to eat veggies (yuck!)
Food Cravings: not many yet, but this afternoon I had this intense desire for mozzerella cheese sticks. 
Gender: ???? 
Labor Signs: too soon for those.
Belly Button: it's there!
What I miss: Jose. I could really use a nice top shelf maragrita right now.
What I'm looking forward to: feeling like there's really something in there.
Weekly Wisdom: Parents frequently do things they don't enjoy for their children... including eating veggies.
Milestones: We are one week away from the 2 month mark!

Baby's now the size of a blueberry!

Baby's brain -- both hemispheres! -- is growing fast, generating about one hundred new cells every minute. Arms and legs are emerging as joints start to form, and a permanent set of kidneys (baby's third!) is now in place.

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Calling the Shots

Yesterday I had my first real prenatal appointment.  Things seemed to go pretty well overall.  Doc did a quick ultrasound to prove that there was something in there and checked for a heart beat.  Our little Bean clocked in at 120 beats per minute.  That's not setting any speed records, but it was enough to say that this is a viable preganancy.  We also dated the pregnancy again, because I couldn't be completely sure about the dates I provided.  The Ultrasound looks like we're only about 7 weeks along.  That revises the due date to January 25.  The previous date (based on my guestimate) was January 18, so I feel pretty good that those are reasonably close. 

After the ultrasound, we had a nice long chat with the doctor about nutrition (uh oh!).  She began by saying that she wanted me to eat lots of protien.  This I can handle... meat, eggs, more meat, some beans, yay!  She also said that I was to stay away from caffenee.  Done, I don't do caffenee anyway.  She said I needed to give up all sodas. Again, not a real problem for me.  But then came the one thing that I really didn't want to hear... I need to eat way more green and yellow/orange veggies.  Ahhhhhhh!  The only green thing I eat is green beans.  And I do eat a fair share of cooked tomatoes, but I'm definately not eating a squash.  I really don't do rabbit food in any shape, form, or fashion.  I'd rather take a beating than eat brocolli and spinach.  Seriously, do I look like Popeye to you?

After much discussion about options for getting those nutrients, we decided to try and find some ways to sneak those things into foods I do like, for instance adding some finely chopped spinach into my chili or lasagna.  I agreed to munch on some carrot sticks from time to time (6 baby carrots in a serving is doable). And, we agreed that some of those awful tasting things could come from sources like V8 juice if I could tolerate that. 

So after spending some quality time at the Doc, I hopped in the car to go to work and Brian headed off to Sam's to do some quick shopping before he had an appointment in the afternoon.  Then after his appointment, he stopped by Walmart and picked up a pack of regular V8 juices and a bottle of the cranberry-raspberry V8 fusion.  I tried both and am very thankful that V8 has the V8 fusion line.  I needed to down just 5 oz of regular V8.  It started off well enough with the first tiny sip, but by the time I started taking big drinks, I was gagging.  The good news is that I did manage to finish off the 5 oz can, but I don't think I'll be doing that again.  I haven't had a large glass of the V8 fusion, but after tasting it, I don't think it will be a problem to get down. 
In any event, I'm stopping by Publix tonight on my way home from work to see if I can locate some Edamane (a soy bean-like thing) and some fresh spinach to dice up in my food processor and throw into a pot of chili. We'll see how that goes.  I'm also going to use Google to see if I can find recipes for hiding veggies in meals for kids. 

The one thing that bothers me in all this is that Bean is just 7 weeks along and he is already calling the shots and creating demands for me to do things I don't enjoy.  It may be a long 9 months, especially if I have to choke down a can of that terrible V8 juice 2-3 times a day.